Okay, so there's really three things that a woman needs in order to feel emotionally stimulated. And I'm making this video because this is something that I see most men just don't have. Most men don't know this. They're not able to articulate it or they're just not able to actually see their own blind spots. See, this is the thing is as a man, you got to be able to see your own blind spots. Okay? So, in order for a woman to stay with you, she has to feel emotionally stimulated. this feeling of emotional stimulation. It's a combination of her own survival and who she feels is best to be with for her own future, her own future safety, her own future survival. But on top of that, she's balancing who she would want to be with for the long haul when it comes to who she would want to have kids with, who she's attracted to, who seems like he has a good head on his shoulders, and who provides the right excitement that makes life fun and worth living. Okay? So, a woman's looking at everything. This is what you have to know about women. She's looking at everything. She's looking at you as a whole, you as the person. I'll never forget there was this one time, um, I was sitting on my couch back home and I was talking to this one girl at the time I was seeing, I think she was like 23 or 24, and I can't remember how the exact sentence went, but she said, uh, she goes, "Well, I look at the person." Okay, she said that. She goes, "I look at the whole person. I look at the person." Right? And the reason why she said that like in context was like it's not about the point she was trying to make was like it's not just about like looks, right? Or how a person looks or what's on the outside. She looks at the person as a whole, the personality personality, how that guy shows up, how he talks, his interests, his beliefs on top of that with how you look and how you carry yourself. Okay? So women need to feel this emotional stimulation or they don't think you're a good fit for their own survival. Now I think that a more elementary almost dumbed down level of this is when guys say she gets bored. Maybe maybe she gets bored, right? But on top of that, you have to understand that when you stimulate her emotions properly, when you give her the emotional stimulation, this tells her subconscious mind that he's a good fit for you and for your future and for your future survival. So, if you can just demonstrate the right things on like a primal level, you're going to start to win her over. So, I'm going to lay out all three of these things and then I'm going to show you how to not make the mistakes that most guys make. And then I'm going to show you how to actually implement this in your own life so stuff starts to click and stuff starts to actually make sense. So, stick with me. Okay. The first form of emotional stimulation that a woman absolutely needs in order to want to be with you and especially to be with you for the long haul would be she needs to feel that her life, okay? She's going to have a better life with you than she would have without you. Okay. She needs to know on like a deep down subconscious intrinsic level that her life being with you is going to be drastically better than if her life uh or than the life that she's living all by herself. She needs to see this in a lot of different ways. And it's not just about the tangible resources, which we'll get to in a second, okay? But this is one thing I want you to even write down on a sheet of paper that I want you to know. If her imagination is more captivating and creative than yours, that relationship is over. I'll say that again. If her imagination is more captivative, okay, it's more captivating and it's more creative than yours, that relationship is over. So, as a man, when you hear that sentence, a better life with you than without you. Us men, right, we a lot of times think logically and rationally. So, the first thing that every guy's going to say is money. Yeah, money. I know. All she wants is money. It's all ever about money. Yep. Just make more to slave away at work and then give to her. It's not what I'm talking about. We're going to break this down in a couple different key nuance pieces. So, a better life with you than without you in some way, shape, or form. Yes, that could mean resources, stability. If you have a great job, a great work ethic, you have a great career. See, this is the other thing. I'm going to tell you this. Every single man watching this channel, you need a career. You don't just need a job. You need a career. Because career gets molded and fortified with identity. Masculine identity is almost formed through career. If you're sleeping 8 hours a day, right? And let's say you're working 8 to 10 hours a day. That's a big part of your life. 8 to 10 hours a day that you're working. That starts to become who you are. Because when you're living and when you're awake, that is you. That's what you're that's what you're becoming. When you think of anybody great, okay, or anybody famous, anybody well-known, it's tied to career. Think of any famous athlete, any famous musician, any famous uh, you know, Fortune 500 company owner that became that person, right? Those talents start to mold you and fortify you. Any woman that I would date, one of the things she's instantly going to align with is he's a YouTuber. He makes YouTube videos. That's him. Identity and career is so important. So the first piece of this, yes, we have to talk about resources and future earning potential that's tied to career. When a woman is with you and she's deciding for herself if she should stay with you or she should have kids with you, she's looking at how stable your future is. You showing that you can't hold a job, that's not going to help you out. You showing that you can't get your own place, it's not going to help you out. Now when you are able to double down so hard on career that you excel. Career does not just become future resources and future earning potential. But career actually becomes a position of status. Anybody who is great at career could be a famous NASCAR driver, could be a famous actor, could be a famous musician. Anybody who doubles down on career gets rewarded as a man with status. status is tied to that because as you get older, past high school, past college, the popularity contest wears off real quick and real world kicks in. And women know this. So guys who can show up and win in one area, you're going to show that you provide a better life, okay, you show that you have a better life or you provide a better life that she would have with you than being all by herself. She's going to look at you and say, "Yes, he provides resources. He has a good stable job. He has a good stable career. He's going somewhere. Maybe he has his own home. He checks a lot of boxes. But on top of that, what's the other piece of this? The other piece of this that shows that you have a good life or she's going to have a good life or a better life with you than without you. It would be if your imagination is more captivating and more creative than the way that she thinks or the way that she looks at her own life. You have to be more captivating and more creative than she is. And here's what I mean by that. And here's why. the part that I just talked about when it comes to resources and status through career and going somewhere in life and being stable with a good financial future. Those concepts are very adult. It's very dad level stuff. It's very logic level stuff. Okay. The other part of this that makes life better with you than without you. Okay? Would be if your imagination is more captivative and more creative. Captivating and creative. And here's what I mean by that. when she is with you, if you're able to it's like you you're an adult and you have all these boxes checked, but it's like when you two are around each other, it's like you're able to bring out that vibe and that energy as if you two are just kids again having fun. I want you to imagine what life was like when you were a kid, right? It's summer break from school and you have that that fun, youthful energy. You find a bunch of stuff to do and you might not even have a dollar to your name. Might not even have a dollar to your name. Just completely broke, but you're just a kid and you're having fun. you're gonna find stuff to do. Maybe you you you go outside and you uh you you you get the uh super soakers and you go knock on the neighbor's door and you're having fun. Maybe you have a water balloon fight. You do a cannonball in the pool. Right? If she sees that even though you're 30, 35, 40 years old, you bring out that level of fun that makes life worth living. You are captivative and creative. Captivating and creative, I should say. It's like you still have the ability to say, "Hey, let's go rent a boat on Saturday and we're going to go boating. Let's go to the water park. Let's go hiking. Let's go do something. Let's go do something recreational. Let's go have fun. Let's actually create our own fun." See, this is the thing. Most men as they get older, they lose their creativity. You lose your creativity that you had as a kid, that childlike creativity where you could just think of something and draw it on a sheet of paper. You lose that. and you lose that and it makes you less it makes you not as multi-dimensional. So this is both sides of it. Yes, you have that adult side over here that makes future better or her future better logically more resources, home security, good future survival, earning potential career. But the other side that makes life worth living is she sees that you know how to be creative and still have fun like a kid again. And if you lose that side of you, this is when you start to lose the relationship because both sides of that coin makes life worth living. If she wakes up and she's bored and she sees that you don't have anything to do and you cannot think of anything, you are so far in the adult side of things that your logical brain just takes over your whole life. She's going to go, "This guy does not know how to make life fun and vibrant and worth living." You need to be the guy that knows how to go and find something fun to do, something recreational to do. There's a million and one different things you can think of. Let's go mountain biking. Let's go have a water balloon fight. Let's go uh jump in the pool. Let's go to the water park. Let's go uh find an amusement park and go on the roller coaster. Let's go rent a boat for the day. Let's go tubing. Let's uh go skiing. Let's go snowboarding. Let's do snowmmoiling. Let's do ATV. Let's do something that has thrill and fun and excitement. So, this is the first piece that guys miss. If you can't give the captivating energy and you can't prove in some way, shape or form that her life, okay, is better with you than it would be without you, you will not retain that relationship. Okay, that's just number one. Number two, the second thing that a woman needs, okay, in order to feel emotionally stimulated, okay, and take notes on this because number two and number three are like polar opposites, but they're one and the same once you really see how I elaborate on this. Number two, the second thing, okay, that is most important here or that is very important in order to get her to feel emotionally stimulated would be that you are strong. Let's just keep this word nice and simple. Strong. What is strong? Strong is the opposite of weak. Okay, strong is the opposite of weak. You want to show that you're strong in all ways, shapes, and forms. And that does not mean like overbearing, like trying to prove your worth. But let's just start with the basics. I am a very firm believer that to demonstrate on a primal level that you are attractive, you need to show that you are physically strong. You need to show that you have a good amount of muscle mass and you are physically strong. This is why guys who are, let's say, athletes a lot of times attract more women because physical strength and athleticism is a form of her desire that she'll have for you. It demonstrates like raw strength and masculinity. You have to be in the gym. You want to build a body for yourself because you want to show that you're able to protect. Okay? So, you're strong. You want to be physically strong. Let's just start there. Okay? The next thing that you want to have is you do not want to have weak vocal tone. You do not want to have weak vocal tone. This is one thing that a lot of guys have. The voice is so like hushed and like uh almost passive. It's like a hi, good morning. How's your day? You will actually notice, you will hear that that guy does not sound strong. Okay? So, you have to have some strength to your vocal tone. Now, if you're strong with your physical body and you have some form of strength, muscle mass, athleticism, demonstrate that you can protect, she needs to feel safe when she's with you. She needs to feel that if she was walking down an alley at night with you, that she's protected, that nobody's going to mess with you or mess with her. She needs to feel that energy from you. If you don't have that or if you feel if she feels like you're not willing um to stand up for her if something were to happen, if there's danger, you're not going to be able to retain her interest level because she don't feel strong with you or excuse me, she don't feel safe with you. So, you have to be strong. You have to show physical strength. Now, that ties into having strong vocal tone. You don't want to show that you have weak passive vocal tone. And when you have those two things combined, strong vocal tone plus um strong physical presence, you automatically almost get the third one on top of that right away, which is strong body language. Most guys, their body language is very weak. Their body language isn't weak. They don't say things with conviction and confidence. They're not able to demonstrate that they're sure of themselves. Even like little things like talking let's say with your hands, demonstrating a point, being persuasive, being captivating, it shows her that you are sure of yourself. So when a woman looks at strength, it's a combination of all three of these. Strong physically, strong vocal tone, which leads to a strong character um which ultimately demonstrates strong body language. You don't want to have weak body language. You want to have strong body language. So these are all the different parts that help her feel emotionally stimulated. Which brings me to the third thing. Now this is opposite but in some way shape and form. Okay, like the the point that I'm getting at number three. The third way you make her feel emotionally uh stimulated is through emotional safety. She has to feel safe and secure with you. And what that means is that means from time to time you have to show her that the relationship is strong. If you've been dating for 6 months and she texts you, "Good morning." You You have to be able to give her that level of feeling that the relationship is right there and it's solid. You say, "Good morning, sweetie. Good morning, lover. Good morning, sweets." Whatever you want to say, she needs to feel like this is real. And this is one of the biggest problems that most of the quote unquote alpha male type guys get wrong is they fail at providing a level of emotional security, a level of emotional safety, and a level of emotional comfort. When you're able to give emotional safety, right? And that means from time to time even it's like if you two are laying down together watching a movie and something happens or like let's say you guys are sitting there talking and something happens and like you're able to comfort her and you say, "Ah, babe, that's okay. Ah, sweets, calm down. You hear that tone? You hear how it's like it's like that that element where it's like you have that almost softer side to you that lets her feel as if um this relationship is real and rock solid and like you two have a strong bond where you're not the type to just constantly just disregard what she thinks. That is so important. So what I wrote down um in my notes with this point is I put so what happens is that emotional safety okay this tells her on a subconscious level it says essentially hey I'm here with you and I will not abandon you. That's what she needs to feel because this is what you have to remember with a lot of these like dudes who constantly just think like oh be more of an alpha male and then this is going to get uh her emotions invested. She feels like he's strong, but she doesn't necessarily feel emotional safe with him. She doesn't feel emotional safety and emotional comfort with him. Which is why a lot of times you'll see this, right? She's sleeping with a dude, but things seems inconsistent, and then all of a sudden, for her long-term security, she gets with a guy who's more of the type um where she feels like the relationship is real. The problem that I see that a lot of guys have is a lot of guys don't understand that you can have both and you can be both. and in order to be both, that's what satisfies hypergamy most. And women a lot of times cannot find it um in the same guy. So it's like the skills that I'm teaching you here. So you can be both her shortterm and her long term. Like when you ace this that I'm talking about, you're now the guy that she has like a almost like a she sleeps with right away or she maybe has a one night stand with. you're also now the guy that she's consistently seeing and maybe even she views you as like slightly like even the the party type fun guy and it's like you were able to have like intimacy with her right away but at the same time she also views you as long-term potential and long-term material. It's like she's able to look at you and she's like, "Damn, he's he's so hot. He's so attractive. I want him so bad, but I also could see a future with him." That is the sweet spot. And the problem that I see that women run into is they only a lot of times find one or the other. Like they only find a type of guy who like um he's the party guy type, so he's the fun guy and she sleeps with him, but she doesn't want to invest in his future because he doesn't have um any direction in life that he's going. That makes it seem like there's stability here. Or she sees the complete opposite. She's with this guy over here who's super stable, super nice, um very uh pleasing. He has a great stable future. He has a great career. But he has no sex appeal or edge to his personality that makes life fun and exciting. Which ties me back into my first point that I told you about emotional safety, emotional stimulation would be that when you demonstrate point number one, okay, which what is point number one here? Point number one is a better life with you than without you. So a better life with you is you have both sides of the coin. That means your future is good and you have a good head on your shoulders going somewhere in life and you're showing career success and financial stability, but you're also creative and can have fun. And when you do that, man, you you in you embody everything that a woman looks for. And the biggest problem that I see is like guys just always think you have to be one or the other. like you're either this like party boy Chad type that sleeps with them or you're this like loyal loving husband type who basically is like like super passive and just gets walked on by like his wife or his girlfriend and then he ends up getting cheated on. It's like no, the point you want to get to is where you know how to embody both sides of that. And when you can embody both sides of that, it is so damn hard for her to leave you because it is so hard to replace you. You're providing stability, success, security, emotional comfort, but at the same time, you're strong. You're capable. You know how to create a fun, captivating life and vibe. And she just wants to be with you. And when that happens, she's sitting there going, "I want to have children with you. When are we going to have children? She wants to sleep with you right away a lot of times. And a lot of times, she don't want to lose you." And I'm telling you this because it's a skill you can master if you just actually understand the full array of how to essentially be a strong and good capable human. And a human has that wide array of emotions that she's able to feel and see that you have which makes that bond grow that much stronger. If you like this video, take this even a step further and join us in the community that I built so I can help you learn, understand, and master the language of women. This has essentially been my life's work. And I believe that I teach this better than anybody. I believe I teach this better than anybody. And if you check out the page that I made, you're going to see why. 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